Single father dating single mother
and you overcame that.” Let me just say that I never considered myself less than a single father when I was single.
I found her notion that men who don’t have their kids full time are somehow less of a father than ones that do to be abhorrent. I asked a swath of friends what their opinion was and it was largely in line with what my wife and her friend thought.
Chief among them: Because that’s the way it’s always been.
Traditionally, men worked and women stayed home to raise children.
According to census.gov, in 2011, 18.3% of fathers had primary physical custody, up from 6.1% in 1993.
That is a massive jump in numbers, to be certain, yet the stereotype that men who do not have their children all the time are not equal to the men who do persists.
I’m certainly thankful I get that much time because it could have easily been worse as I have seen other fathers end up. I am viewing this as a man who has sacrificed to maintain a connection to his children.
” Realizing that I may have been offended by that, she sheepishly replied, “Yes …
Many people make the automatic assumption that women are more nurturing as parents than men. Just take a look at all the nostalgia for “the good old days,” comprised of the idea of a nuclear family, complete with the Ward Cleaver-esque father heading off to work while June stays home to care for the house and the kids.
In a world where women comprise 47% of the total labor force in the US (as per the US Department of Labor), it seems pretty safe to assume that men and women work roughly the same amount of jobs. However, our culture has shifted and changed, and that highly specialized view of the ideal family just doesn’t suit anymore.
In the end, I was lucky I was able to have my sons every weekend and have dinner with them during the week.
My agreement is seen as a victory even by my attorney’s standards.