Dating through divorce
Did she make you want to throw something across the room at her oversized head? There are many women out there who find that the ex-wife isn’t always the cool and down-to-earth person they hoped she’d be.No matter how you feel about his previous squeeze, you can’t let on.In this day and age, it isn’t at all unusual to find yourself dating a man who is divorced.With people getting married younger (have you ever watched “16 and Pregnant”? This leads to plenty of good-looking, eligible men on the market who have a past. However, there’s often a stigma that comes with the word “divorce”.It makes you want to squeeze them and go all doe-eyed, doesn’t it? Most of the time, it’s pent up hostility at their parents’ divorce.I can tell you that the kids are most willing to take out their pent up anger on you…the innocent new girlfriend who just happens to be proof that dad isn’t getting back together with mom. ” Don’t you remember how the twins acted towards dad’s new girlfriend (even though the new girlfriend was hideously rude and had a genuine dislike of kids…that’s not the point)?There’s no need to bring toys and shower them with gifts and over attention. If you’re trying too hard, they’ll know you’re afraid that they will dislike you and ruin your chances with their father.
It also comes with a few things you’re going to have to accept without conflict.
If you’re looking for the kind of man who’s going to say “I love you” at first sight, you’re dating the wrong guy.
Divorcees tend to take things slow, and with good reason.
So, aside from being the “bigger man” in the situation, and in spite of any feelings your guy might have towards his ex, you have to be cool so she isn’t interfering with your relationship (and yes, even unknowingly being talked about behind her back is a form of inadvertently interfering in your relationship).
The best advice I can give you when dating a divorced dad is to wait a while before meeting his kids.