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I couldn't swipe right, partly because of an information shortage, partly because of the guilt I felt misleading the woman in the picture.
I associated more with her: She had zero chance with me romantically because of my sexual orientation, and I'd feel unethically deceptive talking with her even though I wrote "straight" in my profile and that I was just searching for friends. I always wanted an English friend, in part due to the accent and cultural intrigue.
People would be chiller because the relationship stakes were lower. Still, I didn't want to play mind games with my future besties.
So I filled out my profiles honestly, noting in each I was not looking to date, "only make friends :)." This practice got trickier on more information-intensive apps—I literally responded to Coffee Meets Bagel's "I like it when my date…" query with a "doesn't want to date me. But Laurie Davis, author of and an online dating consultant, later told me that strategy was all wrong: Being direct was the kiss of death.
It was getting serious with one of my Tinder matches.
On Tinder particularly, "The purpose was never just for dating, it was for social discovery in general," Rosette Pambakian, vice president of communications for the app, told me.
"The co-founders wanted to create a really efficient way to meet people around you who you probably would have never met before." The "show me men versus women" option the app provides is "exactly what it says," Pambakian explains.
That said, I was confident friendship was going to be different on the apps.
A friend finder app, after all, didn't seem too far away with Tinder for cats and other spin-off matching services debuting. Lyke Me, an app three Michigan State University students have designed to match people based on interests, is launching this fall.) On a personal level, I wanted more friends.
I moved to New York less than two years ago and have been trying to expand my circle as I build roots in the city.
"Just want to give you a heads up, though," I wrote.
"I was serious when I said I'm just looking for friends on my profile.