Dating after divorce rebound relationship
Are rebound relationships always doomed to be temporary flings, or can they become long-term, stable, and happy partnerships?
Rebound relationships can be defined as romantic relationships that begin shortly after a previous relationship has ended but before the emotions tied to that previous relationship have been resolved (Brumbaugh & Fraley, 2014).
We may be feeling insecure when it comes to our self-worth, our sexuality, and our value on the “secondary dating market.” We may not look before we leap, or we imagine feelings that aren’t reciprocated.
We may cling to an unhealthy new relationship because we haven’t yet healed from the old.
This evidence builds nicely on research showing that individuals with high attachment anxiety are better able to sever their emotional attachment to an ex-partner when they start a new relationship (Spielmann, Mac Donald, & Wilson, 2009).
If the goal is to move on, it seems, starting something new can help.
In my own experience, I’ve lived several “transitional” relationships.
In other words, I was gradually learning from and distancing myself from destructive traits in the men I attracted and the familiarity that I felt in dealing with them.
His fine qualities were all I allowed myself to see, as I threw myself into a relationship that had serious issues. I was blissful in his capacity for emotional intimacy.
Yes, people who want revenge on their ex-partners also tend to form new relationships more quickly, and the more quickly individuals begin relationships, the more they compare their new partners with their exes (Brumbaugh & Fraley, 2014).
But this doesn’t take away from the evidence that individuals are recovering more quickly from their emotional distress by participating in something new.
If you’re looking for specific signs of the rebound relationship, here are some of the top indicators that should give you pause and encourage you to take your time: 1.
Expecting your new romantic partner to be your “knight in shining armor” 2.